Try To Understand Before You Are Understood

I know I don’t talk about my work very often here on the blog.  For me, it’s important to try and keep the two separate.  This blog is a place for me to be fun and have fun, find inspiration, and hopefully inspire a few people along the way as well.  Not to mention. . . I just like writing :).

But, sometimes my work creeps into my little head so much that I want to include it on the blog.

We had a training this morning about working with clients, specifically focusing on de-escalation techniques.   We work with a lot of people in crisis, and in those moments it is so important to meet a client where they are at.

Something that was said during the training has REALLY stuck with me, and is something that I want to very intentionally work to integrate into my everyday life, both personally and professionally.

Try to understand before you are understood.

As a social worker, and a for-fun writer, wife, daughter and friend, I found this quote extremely relevant to basically every aspect of my day-to-day.

I am an outspoken person.  I have opinions, and I voice them.  I am passionate, vocal, and sometimes stubborn.   I have a lot to say and want to be heard.  While I can see that this is all good in many circumstances, there are times when I need to work on UNDERSTANDING where others are coming from before I get on my own soap box.

I am not normally a fan of New Year’s Resolutions, but this is something that starting today, I am going to resolve to work on. Everyday.  In all my relationships, interactions, and even passions.


Ok — as of this evening, I will be back to normal running and healthy living fun stuff, I swear 🙂


Question of the Afternoon:  Can anybody else relate to this?  Any other out-of-the box  resolutions?

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20 thoughts on “Try To Understand Before You Are Understood

  1. We frequently have de-escalation training and crisis prevention training for my work (shocking, I know.. since nothing like that happens in an Emergency Room…) and I’ve heard quotes similar to this, and it makes me think a lot. Some situations I cannot use this because the person is far from reality or even just dangerous to try and talk to, but it is such an eye opener to stop and think about what the other person is going through, and what theyre hearing. you have to understand where they are in order to empathize and communicate. This is realllly important in both of our lines of work! Another favorite quote from these classes is “you can’t rationalize with someone who isn’t rational”.

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  3. Oh yes, I can totally relate to this. As a high school teacher I work with a lot of students and their families. I have a ton of respect for social workers, for real. I can’t imagine doing the challenging work that you do every day.

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